Single Ladies: Take Your Time

My single sistahs are on my spirit today. I feel like they need to hear this message. I feel like as single women we are putting so much pressure on ourselves to live up to these standards. We think we should be married and having kids at a certain age.  We think we should be dating. We think something is wrong with us if we aren’t doing what others expect us to. When we keep experiencing failed relationships, instead of healing, we move on to the next one. We don’t take the time to love on us. We don’t take the time to figure out what the problem is….we are too busy wanting that companionship, wanting to be loved. So we rush the process. Try to find love any and everywhere. And end up getting ourselves hurt. Disappointed. Feeling unloved and unworthy.  Not realizing that the best love is self-love. Ain’t nobody going love you better than you love you. Women who think that their prince charming, king, soulmate (whatever term you like) will never come are not taking the time to love themselves. Take time to love on you. Date you. Stop moving from one relationship to the next. Pause. Take a breather. Evaluate that last relationship so you wont take that same baggage and hurt into the next one. Take time to heal. Take time to figure out what you like and dislike. Take time to truly LOVE YOU!! Listen, I love me. And it took me years to really do that. I love spending time with me. Telling myself how beautiful I am. I love taking time to pray, speak affirmations into myself and soaking up my presence. I treat myself how I would want a man to treat me, because what example of love is better than self-love? So ladies stop rushing the process. Stop overthinking and worrying. That man will come. You will get married. You will have children. You will find the happiness. But you also have to be the happiness you want to see as well how we say we have to be the change we want to see. Be patient. Take time to LOVE YOU! Trust the process. Put yourself in the position to accept and notice real love when it comes along.

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